Date: 7/13/2017 12:46 PM EDT

Receiving an Alzheimer's diagnosis is never easy — it's life changing, not only for the person receiving the diagnosis but for their family members as well. The disease can exact a devastating toll on family relationships unless everyone pitches in to support caregivers and take steps to secure the financial future of the person with Alzheimer's.

These are a few important takeaways from a new survey by the Alzheimer’s Association. The survey of more than 1,500 American adults, including current and former caregivers for someone with Alzheimer’s, found that while 91 percent agreed caring for someone with Alzheimer’s or dementia should be a team effort, too many caregivers feel they’re not getting the support they need. Eight-four percent of caregivers said they would like more support, particularly from family, and 64 percent felt isolated and alone.

Family stresses

“Caring for someone living with Alzheimer's can be overwhelming and too much for one person to shoulder alone," says Beth Kallmyer, vice president of constituent services for the Alzheimer’s Association. “Without help, caregivers can end up feeling isolated, undervalued and lacking support from the people they want to be able to turn to for help.” The survey found relationships between siblings to be the most strained, stemming from not having enough support in providing care (61 percent) as well as the overall burden of caregiving (53 percent).  Among all caregivers who experienced strain in their relationships, many felt like their efforts were undervalued by their family (43 percent) or the person with the disease (41 percent).

Contributing to the stress were a lack of communication and planning; 20 percent of survey respondents said they had not discussed their wishes with a spouse or other family member, and only 24 percent had made financial plans to support themselves post-diagnosis.

Tips to help families navigate Alzheimer's

Despite its seriousness, some families grew closer following an Alzheimer's diagnosis, according to the survey. More than a third of those surveyed said caregiving actually strengthened their family relationships, and two out of three said they felt the experience gave them a better perspective on life. Relationships between spouses/partners benefited the most. The Alzheimer’s Association online Caregiver Center (http://www.alz.org/care/ )  offers wide-ranging resources to help families navigate the many challenges associated with the disease. During June — Alzheimer's & Brain Awareness Month — the Association is offering tips to help mitigate family tensions and relieve caregiver stress, including:

  • Communicate openly — Establishing and maintaining good communication not only helps families better care for their loved one with Alzheimer’s, it can relieve stress and simplify life for caregivers, too. Families should discuss how they will care for the person with Alzheimer’s, whether the current care plan is meeting the person's needs, and any modifications that may be warranted.
  • Plan ahead — In addition to having a care plan for how to cope as the disease progresses, it’s important to have a financial plan as well. The survey found 70 percent of people fear being unable to care for themselves or support themselves financially, but only 24 percent have made financial plans for their future caregiving needs. Nearly three-quarters said they would prefer a paid caregiver, but just 15 percent had planned for one, even though Alzheimer’s is one of the costliest diseases affecting seniors. Enlisting the help of qualified financial and legal advisers can help families better understand their options.
  • Listen to each other — Dealing with a progressive disease such as Alzheimer's can be stressful and not everyone reacts the same way. Give each family member an opportunity to share their opinion. Avoid blaming or attacking each other, which can only cause more stress and emotional harm.
  • Cooperate and conquer — Make a list of responsibilities and estimate how much time, money and effort each will require. Talk through how best to divide these tasks among family members, based on each person’s preferences and abilities. If you need help coordinating the division of work, the Alzheimer Association’s online Care Team Calendar can help.
  • Seek outside support — Families can benefit from an outside perspective. Connect with others who are dealing with similar situations. Find an Alzheimer’s Association support group in your area or join the ALZConnected online community.
You can also get around-the-clock help from the Alzheimer’s Association Helpline at (800) 272-3900. "Having the support of family is everything when you’re dealt a devastating diagnosis such as Alzheimer’s,” says Jeff Borghoff, 53, a Forked River, New Jersey, resident who has lived with younger-onset Alzheimer’s for two years. “My wife, Kim, has been my rock as we navigate the challenges of Alzheimer’s. It’s easy to want to shut down following a diagnosis, but that’s the time when communication within families is needed most.” (BPT)

Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a senior care community in Upper Bucks' County, less than 30 miles north of Philadelphia. With 54 private and shared living studies, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge provides a peaceful setting where seniors can maintain their independence while having access to professional personalized services and nursing care. Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a pet friendly community. The Laurels, our newly designed memory care residence, offers 48 private or shared rooms. Tucked in the beautiful, serene Bucks County countryside, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge understands and addresses seniors’ concerns of preserving their independence while maintaining their physical health and safety, and mental health and providing peace of mind for family members and caregivers. For more, like us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/hiddenmeadowseniorlive/ or visit http://www.hiddenmeadowsontheridge.com/

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Date: 7/13/2017 12:43 PM EDT

Are you, as a caregiver, in danger of burning out? http://caregiver.com/articles/energy-of-caregiving/?ct=t(Caregiver_Newsletter_062217)&mc_cid=f97bcd9b55&mc_eid=2559996d5a

Through my practice as a psychotherapist and my role as a caregiver support group leader, I have met many people who describe an experience that I only recently have been able to name. This experience, which I witnessed first-hand as my wife and I found ourselves in supportive roles related to a chronic illness, has to do with two essential life forces operating at the same time.

I have named the experience exhaustlessness, being both exhausted and restless at the same time. I realize now that this is what I see on the faces of the caregivers who come to me for professional guidance. It is the look that says, “There’s so much to do and so little time to do it that the only thing I can do is to keep moving.” The physical manifestation is like taking a sleeping pill and an energy drink at the same time. The feeling of constant motion comes from the awareness that there always seems there is something else that can be done. The exhaustion comes from the exertion of, not just physical, but mental, emotional and spiritual energies.

In a purely physiological sense, this is a perfect storm; the collision of two powerful systems whose combined impact can feel like an emotional hurricane. The unleashing of this full-force gale of stress would, under different circumstances, leave one depleted and empty. Paradoxically, it also becomes the very fuel that gives one the wherewithal to make that trip to see the loved one despite eyes that are as heavy as the heart. It speeds up the thinking process that allows the multi-tasks of caregiving to be expertly juggled despite learning as you go. It fends off sleep as one sits bedside, ever watchful of a loved one’s every move.

The reason that exhaustlessness does not come with the Surgeon General’s warning of “Dangerous to health” is, I believe, due to the fact that it essentially arises out of a movement of profound love. Unrestricted caregiving runs the risk of burnout when the awareness of personal limits is ignored and exceeded. The heart-centered focus of exhaustlessness, on the other hand, provides a return on the investment of selfless compassion as the illusion of separation dissolves. The giver and receiver are one; we get what we give.

This is why is can be so hard to convince caregivers to slow down and why they often look sideways at anyone who tells them that they have to take care of themselves first. At a very deep level, the level where we are all connected, they are taking care of themselves as they move reflexively toward the needs of a loved one who is suffering. The well that feeds this force is unlimited, which is why many caregivers seem to perform miracles in their acts of service. It is the human body that has its limits and will, at times, need to drink from the same well.

is not surprising, then, that many of the caregivers I see are not looking for permission to slow down, but confirmation that it’s okay to continue on. Increasingly, I find myself leaning toward helping them see the forces at work within themselves and move in accord with their inner wisdom. Finally, I ask that they allow trusted others to shoulder some of the burdens that come while living in a state of exhaustlessness; a state that, like all others, will also pass in time.

Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a senior care community in Upper Bucks' County, less than 30 miles north of Philadelphia. With 54 private and shared living studies, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge provides a peaceful setting where seniors can maintain their independence while having access to professional personalized services and nursing care. Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a pet friendly community. The Laurels, our newly designed memory care residence, offers 48 private or shared rooms. Tucked in the beautiful, serene Bucks County countryside, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge understands and addresses seniors’ concerns of preserving their independence while maintaining their physical health and safety, and mental health and providing peace of mind for family members and caregivers. For more, like us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/hiddenmeadowseniorlive/ or visit http://www.hiddenmeadowsontheridge.com/

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Date: 7/13/2017 12:03 PM EDT

The Bucks County Area Agency on Aging, in conjunction with the Pennsylvania Department of Agriculture, is offering the Farmers Market Nutrition Program to older adults in Bucks County.  The program provides $20.00 in FREE vouchers to eligible individuals and $40.00 for eligible couples, for the purchase of fresh fruits and vegetables at participating farmers markets.  Starting on June 2 the vouchers will be distributed at the designated senior centers listed below, only from 10:00 AM - 1:00 PM on each Friday while supplies last, except at the Eastern Upper Bucks Senior Center, where they will be distributed weekly from 10:00 AM - 1:00 PM on Thursdays, starting, June 1.

Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a senior care community in Upper Bucks' County, less than 30 miles north of Philadelphia. With 54 private and shared living studies, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge provides a peaceful setting where seniors can maintain their independence while having access to professional personalized services and nursing care. Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a pet friendly community. The Laurels, our newly designed memory care residence, offers 48 private or shared rooms. Tucked in the beautiful, serene Bucks County countryside, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge understands and addresses seniors’ concerns of preserving their independence while maintaining their physical health and safety, and mental health and providing peace of mind for family members and caregivers. For more, like us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/hiddenmeadowseniorlive/ or visit http://www.hiddenmeadowsontheridge.com/

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Date: 7/13/2017 12:00 PM EDT

I am a Caregiver

I am a caregiver it’s what I do. 24/7, I’m here for you.

And most of the time we do just fine But once in a while, I need my own time.

And when I take that necessary break I’ve got to remember it’s for both our sake.

I can’t take care of you unless I take care of me. So I work very hard at being guilt-free.

I’ll always be here for you, so don’t you fret. Together we’re making memories of us I’ll never forget.

Source: http://caregiver.com/cg-community/careverses/im_a_caregiver/

5 Facts About Memory Care Facilities

When considering a care facility, it’s important to understand what types of facilities there are, and what needs each fulfills. If you are looking for a place to care for an Alzheimer’s patient, or someone with another kind of dementia, a memory care facility is likely the most suitable choice. Here are some facts about Memory Care Facilities:

  1. “Memory Care Facilities” are always under the umbrella of assisted living, personal care, or skilled nursing facilities.
  2. Sometimes they are stand-alone buildings, made up of residents who have dementia.

    3. Memory Care Facilities are often wings or hallways that are part of a larger assisted living facility.

    4. Memory Care Facilities may also be called “communities,” “neighborhoods,” “units,” “wings,” “hallways,” etc. They are still places devoted to serving people with dementia.

    5. Memory Care communities offer specialized care and activities that meet the needs of residents with dementia.

For more, go to http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2016/09/what-is-memory-care-facility.html.

 

About Hidden Meadows on the Ridge

Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a senior care community in Upper Bucks' County, less than 30 miles north of Philadelphia.  With 54 private and shared living studies, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge provides a peaceful setting where seniors can maintain their independence while having access to professional personalized services and nursing care.  Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a pet friendly community. The Laurels, our newly designed memory care residence, offers 48 private or shared rooms. Tucked in the beautiful, serene Bucks County countryside, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge understands and addresses seniors’ concerns of preserving their independence while maintaining their physical health and safety, and mental health and providing peace of mind for family members and caregivers. For more, like us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/hiddenmeadowseniorlive/ or visit  http://www.hiddenmeadowsontheridge.com/

Posted by superseatz

Date: 7/13/2017 11:57 AM EDT

The Bucks County Department of Recreation and the Bucks County Area Agency on Aging will host the 35th Annual Senior Games at various venues across the county, June 5- 15. Both men and women competitors, from age 50 on up, will vie for top finish in five (5) age groups. Golf, bowling, table tennis, bocce, pickleball, darts, billiards and track and field are just some of the events offered this year.

For information, visit: http://www.buckscounty.org/docs/default-source/human-services-documents/2017seniorgamesbrochure.pdf?sfvrsn=0

For a registration form, go to: http://www.buckscounty.org/docs/default-source/human-services-documents/2017seniorgamesregistration.pdf?sfvrsn=0

About Hidden Meadows on the Ridge

Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a senior care community in Upper Bucks' County, less than 30 miles north of Philadelphia.  With 54 private and shared living studies, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge provides a peaceful setting where seniors can maintain their independence while having access to professional personalized services and nursing care.  Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a pet friendly community. The Laurels, our newly designed memory care residence, offers 48 private or shared rooms. Tucked in the beautiful, serene Bucks County countryside, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge understands and addresses seniors’ concerns of preserving their independence while maintaining their physical health and safety, and mental health and providing peace of mind for family members and caregivers. For more, like us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/hiddenmeadowseniorlive/ or visit  http://www.hiddenmeadowsontheridge.com/

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Date: 7/13/2017 11:56 AM EDT

Missing Mom on Mother's Day is natural. If your grief is not too recent, and you are comfortable with the idea, take time to reflect on memories of your mother and express your emotions by honoring her. Here are a few ways to start:

  1. Buy a card. Write your feelings in a note and place it at your mother’s gravesite, or in a special place in your home.
  2. Set a place for mom at the dinner table. Include her photo.. Prepare your mother's favorite dish or a special recipe she taught you. Have each family member share a special memory of Mom or Grandma before beginning to eat.
  3. Bring flowers to your mother's gravesite.
  4. Visit another mother. Consider visiting a senior in a nursing home or senior center who might not otherwise have any visitors on Mother's Day, and bring young children along, if appropriate.
  5. Donate your time. Keep Mom’s legacy alive by volunteering with a meaningful local organization on Mother's Day. Serve meals at a local food pantry, plant new flowers or vegetables at a community garden or read to children through a hospital program .
However you decide to spend the day, experts agree that it's most important for you to listen to your heart, and allow yourself to do as much or as little as you are able.

For more, see:

https://www.agingcare.com/articles/managing-grief-on-mothers-day-157592.htm

About Hidden Meadows on the Ridge

Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a senior care community in Upper Bucks' County, less than 30 miles north of Philadelphia.  With 54 private and shared living studies, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge provides a peaceful setting where seniors can maintain their independence while having access to professional personalized services and nursing care.  Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a pet friendly community. The Laurels, our newly designed memory care residence, offers 48 private or shared rooms. Tucked in the beautiful, serene Bucks County countryside, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge understands and addresses seniors’ concerns of preserving their independence while maintaining their physical health and safety, and mental health and providing peace of mind for family members and caregivers. For more, like us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/hiddenmeadowseniorlive/ or visit  http://www.hiddenmeadowsontheridge.com/

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Date: 7/13/2017 11:55 AM EDT

Don’t miss Spring 2017 Crafts in the Barn, a semi-annual craft show featuring over 75 local crafters and artists displaying their creations in our 200-year-old barn. We are located on the border of Bucks and Montgomery Counties, north of Philadelphia. Crafts in the Barn is a bi-annual event held Mother’s Day Weekend and the fourth week of October

Come for an experience that is like no other. Here you will find that perfect, thoughtful gift for everyone on your list – including yourself. You won’t be disappointed!

When: Wednesday through Friday – May 10, 11, 12 – 9AM to 9 PM; Saturday, May 13 – 9 AM to 5 PM.

4130 Thistlewood Road, Hatboro PA 19040

For more information, go to Crafts in the Barn on Facebook.

About Hidden Meadows on the Ridge

Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a senior care community in Upper Bucks' County, less than 30 miles north of Philadelphia.  With 54 private and shared living studies, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge provides a peaceful setting where seniors can maintain their independence while having access to professional personalized services and nursing care.  Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a pet friendly community. The Laurels, our newly designed memory care residence, offers 48 private or shared rooms. Tucked in the beautiful, serene Bucks County countryside, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge understands and addresses seniors’ concerns of preserving their independence while maintaining their physical health and safety, and mental health and providing peace of mind for family members and caregivers. For more, like us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/hiddenmeadowseniorlive/ or visit  http://www.hiddenmeadowsontheridge.com/

http://buckscountyalive.com/events/

Posted by superseatz

Date: 7/13/2017 11:54 AM EDT

In our last post, we discussed how positive self-talk can help you cope with the stressful job of caregiving. In order to talk positively to yourself, you have to first stop negative thinking. Here are a few tips for preventing the negative self talk from overriding the positive:

  1. Interrupt negative thoughts with “stop” 2. Use milder wording 3. Change self-limiting statements to questions 4. Address yourself by name Research  has found that talking to yourself using the word “I” will stress you out. But, using your own name actually helps you give yourself support and advice.
Source:  http://dailycaring.com/3-ways-to-reduce-caregiver-stress-with-positive-self-talk/

About Hidden Meadows on the Ridge

Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a senior care community in Upper Bucks' County, less than 30 miles north of Philadelphia.  With 54 private and shared living studies, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge provides a peaceful setting where seniors can maintain their independence while having access to professional personalized services and nursing care.  Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a pet friendly community. The Laurels, our newly designed memory care residence, offers 48 private or shared rooms. Tucked in the beautiful, serene Bucks County countryside, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge understands and addresses seniors’ concerns of preserving their independence while maintaining their physical health and safety, and mental health and providing peace of mind for family members and caregivers. For more, like us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/hiddenmeadowseniorlive/ or visit  http://www.hiddenmeadowsontheridge.com/

Posted by superseatz

Date: 7/13/2017 11:48 AM EDT

Caregivers: Learn How to Talk to Yourself

It may sound crazy, but talking to yourself as a caregiver can help you cope with the stress of your caregiving situation and prevent burnout, as well as stress-related illness. http://www.alz.org/care/alzheimers-dementia-caregiver-stress-burnout.asp

Positive self talk reduces stress, prevents burnout, and keeps you healthy by making you feel good about yourself and the things in your life.

Positive self talk examples:

  1. Dad loves that puzzle I found for him. It’s great that I did the research to find it.
  2. The table is sparkling! I did a nice job cleaning up mom’s mess from breakfast.
  3. I’m not happy about the doctor’s phone call, but the news could have been a lot worse.
Source: http://dailycaring.com/3-ways-to-reduce-caregiver-stress-with-positive-self-talk/

Check our next posting to learn how to prevent negative self-talk.

About Hidden Meadows on the Ridge

Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a senior care community in Upper Bucks' County, less than 30 miles north of Philadelphia.  With 54 private and shared living studies, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge provides a peaceful setting where seniors can maintain their independence while having access to professional personalized services and nursing care.  Hidden Meadows on the Ridge is a pet friendly community. The Laurels, our newly designed memory care residence, offers 48 private or shared rooms. Tucked in the beautiful, serene Bucks County countryside, Hidden Meadows on the Ridge understands and addresses seniors’ concerns of preserving their independence while maintaining their physical health and safety, and mental health and providing peace of mind for family members and caregivers. For more, like us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/hiddenmeadowseniorlive/ or visit  http://www.hiddenmeadowsontheridge.com/

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Date: 6/22/2017 8:37 AM EDT

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